"Doesn't Play Well With Others"

Forums...those lovely online playpens where we find our special little place with a group of like minded people whom we will possibly never meet but that doesn't matter...what matters is the feeling of fitting into your own personal little niche, of finding others who are likeminded and of similar lifestyle to yourself.

Its not real life, it is never meant to be, that is the attraction for some. You know, some people declare who they are, have their little picture right there and their phone number listed plus a map of their house and pictures of the outside their favourite shops. Some are hidden, anonymous, they crave the ability to not have to worry about someone taking exception to their words or opinions even if they are quite harmless opinions. Knowing the world we live in this is sometimes the wiser choice for our online forum activities.

There are others though who are in industry related forums, they have found their niche industry, job etc and then they find their counterparts in the worldwideweb. This is very common, in this scenario people tend to be upfront about who they are, they are after all representing their product or business out there, no advertising like free advertising right?

This is where the sex industry differs from the usual "industry online presence" because in this industry only 50% of the industry forum users are NOT anonymous. Us..the ladies, the escorts, whores, prostitutes, sex workers, whatever you chose to call us for whatever reasons, we are there with out working names displayed, out profiles set up, our carefully designed websites linked in so that you can come and see us if you like what you see. 

The guys are anonymous, this is the norm, it would be a shock to find a man who visits us escorts who  is NOT anonymous online.

This is how it is, its a balance of us being there for all to see, our words are accredited to us, our opinions are accredited to us but theirs are not, their opinions and their words are accredited simply to an anonymous username...and this is where the issues can arise

For the most part everything is fine and dandy, everyone is super duper happy with the status quo and how we all fit together in out little forums world. Some of us do meet obviously, anonymous guys book non anonymous ladies for some quality time and then they are no longer anonymous to us, we get to know each other, sometimes very well, often it feels as if we already DO know each other from our online chats and jokes and sometimes the odd falling out which rarely is an ongoing thing, I myself have met guys after a fall out with them online about some issue only to find that we hit it off like a house on fire in the real world of us ...face to face

The problem comes when a new player joins the gang, again not uncommon, in fact absolutely welcomed as the more the merrier when it comes to knowledge, opinions and active debates, the more  members the more diverse and interesting the conversation. Most who join a forum fit in slowly, they are aware they are new, unsure of the lay of the land, what is allowed, what is not allowed etc so they start off with a few innocuous comments, a joke here, an "ooo I did that" there, some never get past this point but others soon find their feet and become fully fledged and much welcome participants of the on going conversations.

However...

Sometimes a bad egg appears. Someone who "doesnt' play nicely with others", someone who for whatever reason is insecure with themselves or damaged in some way so they feel the need to push themselves not only to the front but in doing so they deliberately and calculatedly step on others to gain the popularity they desperately crave. They dont WANT to play nicely, they want to rule the roost. They want to be the king or the queen and have everyone flutter their eyes at them adoringly and hang on every word they say. They are not interested in other opinion, only that they can manipulate those there to their own ends. 

There are a few sorts where this is concerned but the worst of the all is the victim. The professional victim, from here on in known as the PV,  who has found since childhood probably that fluttery eye lashes and flattering egos gets her/him where they want to be in life, it gets them off the hook regardless of how disgraceful their behaviour because those around them "simply can't stay mad at her/her". They are well trained manipulators and those being manipulated often can tell something is not right, they feel as if that person has "got inside their head" somehow but can't put a finger on it. These are the lucky ones, they  know so they then distance themselves, stay clear possibly or at least are forearmed when going in to meet this person that they are manipulative. 

Others are not so lucky, they get sucked in hook line and sinker to the point where the PV does not have to step on anyone anymore, they have  lackeys who then take over their duties as head steppers and they then go around  exclaiming just how wonderful the manipulator is.  The PV withdraws once they have a pandering lackey or two to do their dirty work on their behalf, they sit back and control from behind the scenes, becomes silent or just flirts and has fun on the public forum so as to appear to be a total innocent whilst their lackeys go about denigrating and bullying, harassing and just generally verbally annoying the people that have chosen to speak up at the PV's bullying tactics

They have two faces  you see, whilst grooming the lackeys they are at the same time attempting to cause trouble for those who they see as a threat. 

Usually with the escort PV its another escort, someone who has been there longer, knows the members, is on good terms with most people, they feel that this person needs to be knobbled, toppled from view. Shushed shall we say and the best way to do this is to commit a character assassination on them. They go on a whisper campaign, they lie, they get caught, the cry and scream NO FAIR, they lie some more until people get sick of it and they get into trouble and then they cry victim some more, this is used to install indignation in their lackeys, to make them feel they have to defend the PV even though they dont actually have the foggiest clue as to what is really going on behind the scenes. 

This is where the anonymity of the clients/punters becomes a problem. Being a Lackey to a PV escort is enabled by the fact that the lackey, as already stated further up, is anonymous, they are a punter, they are in no way possible able to be held accountable for the nasty comments they make about the PV's chosen enemy, they whisper away behind the scenes encouraging other unsuspecting punters to visit their wonderful escort PV and not to even consider visiting her chosen victim claiming they are bad at their job or fat/ugly/ downright awful ..take your pick of the slanderously untrue insults they throw around on "the grapevine" i.e. away from prying eyes in secret forum emails. 

In essence whilst appearing the sweet innoncet vicim to the public forum group  the PV  actually is an ugly nasty passive aggressive bully in secret. 

Luckily for me the PV in my  online life was found out, caught out red handed more than one in their lies with the text on the page to prove it, undeniable, no room to wiggle out and cry the innocent party. 

This did not of course stop my PV from stalking me behind the scenes online by watching over my reviews like a hawk. No doubt they are checking daily to see if any of the guys they have met are meeting with me, they has shown their face on this so I know its true. So, in a way, the madness continues, one of the lackeys still attempts to put me down online,  a pensioner would you believe, proof that age does not always wisdom bring

So..if you happen to be in the unfortunate position of being target practise for the professional online victim remember this..

No one will believe you at first...
The PV will crucify themselves eventually..
Log everything, its the only way to prove you are telling the truth
Dont let the bastards get you down
You are better than that
There are others on that forum you can depend on to know that you are not what you are being made out to be